My husband and I have always been reluctant to have kids of our own. The truth was that we wanted to plan everything in our lives. We do not want to do something that will place us in a compromising situation. However, things had changed when we started to volunteer in an organization that caters to the needs of the children. During the charity works, we learned to be close and open to the kids in the center. That was the reason why we changed our plans and decided to be pregnant.
The first few months were challenging for both of us. There was too much pressure on us. Eventually, I became pregnant with our first child. I had to be honest that since the day we found out, we became more afraid of what might happen in the future. We kept on thinking of the possibilities. What if we are not capable of doing it? What if we fail as parents? What if our child will not like us? All these questions drove me insane, which is why I tried to go for online counseling.
“Online therapy of almost any sort can prove helpful to the many individuals who for whatever reason cannot go to a therapist’s office. Even if therapists do offer services within reasonable geographic proximity, many individuals benefit when their therapy can be available without travel time—during an extended coffee break, a lunch hour, immediately after work or in the evenings,” says Susan Heitler Ph.D.
There were so many great and amazing things that happened in my life ever since the day I started attending online counseling sessions. Through this method, I became more confident as a pregnant woman. I felt more calm and relaxed. The experience made me realize that having an opportunity to raise my child is such a blessing.
“Many of us, despite our own objections, revert to parenting patterns we observed in our own childhood. Therapy can help you get out of this rut and become the parent you want to be (and your children need),” says Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP.
Online counseling helped me to:
- Understand The Situation
The fears I had back then was because I did not have a complete understanding of what it meant to become a mom. Fortunately, my online counselor helped in shedding some light on the situation. He showed me the different possibilities that will come my way because I am about to give birth. At the same time, the counselor also told me the significance of accepting my insecurities.
- Get Over Anxiety
“Anxiety, like most things, is good for you in moderation. Anxiety is normal, healthy, and quite often, it’s helpful. But, in high doses, anxiety becomes problematic. It impairs your performance and makes it difficult to function,” says licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist Amy Morin.
I was always anxious because of the upcoming responsibilities that I was not ready for. The truth was that I became afraid that I might end up being a terrible mom. With online counseling, it made me realize that I was overthinking. My counselor was a good listener even if we only have sessions online. Up to this moment, it still amazes me how I became comfortable in opening up to him despite the distance.
- Find My Focus
The best part that I gained from online counseling was finding my focus. After completing the online sessions, I became a better person. Through the online meetings, I had several chances of understanding the importance of being a first-time mom. It was so surprising how my perspective has changed. I can say that I am happier now. Indeed, all the talks with my counselor were worth it.
I have to say that my overall experience with online counseling was extraordinary. It was so helpful especially for someone like me who has anxiety and fears. Now, I feel better about everything.